Ryan Cassata

So on your website, it says you're going to be in New Jersey sometime? You should definatly stop by North Carolina! You've got some loyal fans over on the East Coast too, dude.

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:27:16 -0400

I should be in North Carolina very soon. Things are in the works! :)

how did your mom cope with your transition? like how did she feel about it? this might help my parents someday if they decide to agree with my transition.

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:26:13 -0400

Here are 2 interviews of my mom and I talking about my transition:

first: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lRX7phIec3Q
second: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A2EuNsY_4_0

I really want to be a better Trans* ally. What tips do you have for me? How can I explain to people what being transgender means? What are some large equal rights issues regarding the Trans* community? Thank you for your help and for being an outspoken activist! :)

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:24:19 -0400

Hey! thanks for the compliment. Also, i’m not sure if I answered this or if you saw my video but I made a video about your question!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5il7ZW5HhEg

Does Alexis have Tumblr?

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:23:05 -0400

yeah

http://dead-dirty-leaves.tumblr.com

I don't mean to be rude, but have you ever got any sort of abuse from school kids when you visit schools?? I remember once we had some lessons about homosexuality but it was the laughing stock of the year and the students in my classes respected gay people even less, and I thought it was disgusting the way they treat other people :/ By the way I love your music and you are very inspirational ^^

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:21:08 -0400

thanks! not really but on my last tour one kid ripped up the stickers and bookmarks that I gave out for free. that was kinda weird. I don’t know if he was just bored or just rude. The only abuse I’ve gotten was from a grown man who started screaming at me once. Here’s the video from that.

this is gonna be kind of random but i've been a fan of yours for quite some time now and i just wanted to let you know how much i admire you, and all ftm's for that matter. i've been struggling with gender dysphoria forever now, i just can't transition because of my over religious parents. i can't even mention it to them, they go on homophobic rage rants daily. i just wanted to say i think you're amazing and if you just so happened to have a a show in michigan i'd totally be there!

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:17:20 -0400

thank you for the kind message. I hope you are coping well with your gender dysphoria and that things get better with your parents. keep your head up! I hope to meet you in Michigan! be well!

i prefer male pronouns, I intend on changing my name but all of my closer friends call me by the genderfluid, but more masculine name i chose for myself. I prefer male clothes, and i fit more of the stereotypical male aspects of thought and understanding as well (if that makes sense), but at the same time I understand women and their thought processes as well (somewhat) but i don't want to medically transition, i don't have much chest anyway. is this abnormal at all? what should I do?

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:16:08 -0400

Everything you are saying is normal. Just follow your heart. Don’t feel that you have to rush into anything. You don’t have to transition if you don’t want to, and you don’t have to medically transition if you don’t want to. Everyone’s path is different. Find your path and don’t be afraid to change it with what you feel comfortable doing. Best wishes. Try not to panic too much. Just give yourself time to discover who you are. :)

OHMYGOSH i totally didn't expect you to reply!! You are officially the best famous person alive <3 I literally cried with happiness when you messaged me :D If you are playing at warped tour, idc if i have to sneak out of the house im comin to see you! OMG i ust listened to your cover of Unwell for the first time and i think it just blew my mind. That has been my fave song since i was 9 when my friend died. I think God had you sing that song to reach people, as all of your other ones too! <3<3<3

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:12:50 -0400

thank you :)

Do you consider yourself a feminist?? Just wondering.

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:11:47 -0400

yes

Do you have any advice for someone who just came out to their mom as FtM and response was literally nothing I don't even know if she read the letter for sure because that's how normal she's acting. And I have no clue what to do. Any advice?

Sat, 25 May 2013 21:11:11 -0400

hm, you should find out if she read the letter. Just ask her “did you get the letter I wrote to you?” then maybe that will spark a natural conversation about coming out to her. take is calmly. :) and do it when you feel comfortable too. If it’s making you anxious to not know what is going on then you should definitely talk to her as soon as you can. Good Luck! Also there are some coming out videos in the advice section of my blog. :)

ganja-g0blin: I hate when my gay friends make fun of me for being bisexual and it really bothers me...

Sat, 25 May 2013 20:56:06 -0400

ganja-g0blin:

I hate when my gay friends make fun of me for being bisexual and it really bothers me when they imply that they’re “queerer” because they don’t like the opposite sex.

Newsflash: Being queer isn’t a fucking contest.

Tell your friends how you feel because this is very fucked up. You are right, being queer isn’t a contest. This reminds me of the L word and how the characters treat Alice.

psychedelity: this is the best quote I have ever heard....

Sat, 25 May 2013 20:51:09 -0400

psychedelity:

this is the best quote I have ever heard. officially gonna live my life by it starting now.

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Sat, 25 May 2013 20:51:04 -0400

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Sat, 25 May 2013 20:47:35 -0400

RYAN CASSATA TOUR DATES

Sat, 25 May 2013 18:04:48 -0400

5/30 - LGBT Center - San Francisco, CA

6/08 - Charlotte County Pride Festival - Port Charlotte, FL

6/09 - Capital Pride Festival - Washington, D.C.

6/20 - Anaheim Farmer’s Market & Fair - Anaheim, CA

6/22 - LA Trans Pride Festival *HEADLINER* - Los Angeles, CA

6/23 - Mutiny Radio Cafe - San Francisco, CA

6/29 - 50 Mason Social House *HEADLINER* - San Francisco, CA

6/30 - TBA - TBA

7/05 - Firehouse Arts Center *HEADLINER* - Pleasanton, CA

7/07 - Sculpterra Winery *HEADLINER* - Paso Robles, CA

7/08 - Bon Temps Creole Café *HEADLINER* - San Luis Obispo, CA

7/11 - Sacred Grounds Cafe *HEADLINER* - San Francisco, CA

7/12 (to 7/14) - Gender Spectrum Conference - Berkeley, CA

8/01 (to 8/03) - TBA - TBA

8/17 - Stockton Pride Festival - Stockton, CA

*FOR BOOKINGS, CONTACT SAM TALL — sam@ryancassata.com

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Sat, 25 May 2013 18:01:54 -0400

I appreciate your response actually. I appreciate that you're willing to say you were wrong and I hope your future actions and things you say show this. My only problem is that even on a small scale, white people have privilege globally. Even in places that are inhabited by POC white people hold privilege over them. If you and I both went to India (I'm east indian) you would be treated better because that's the way our world works. I do appreciate your realizing you were wrong

Sat, 25 May 2013 17:46:00 -0400

Sorry I had no clue about that. I’ve never been there and I barely have been anywhere outside of the US. I’ve been to Mexico and the Bahamas but I was really young so I can’t really remember much of it plus I was on a resort. Maybe one day I will have the chance to see the world, I’m sure it will be an eye opening experience for me.

What I find really interesting is how the word “white” changes and what defines “white” chaneges. If you look at US census from decades ago - the meaning of “white” is completely different. It’s really weird and sort of interesting and of course fucked up because we shouldn’t be creating all these classes. All of this stuff was just socially invented. It’s not even tangible. Italians from southern Italy weren’t even considered white when we got here. We were seen as disgusting, forced to live in tenement buildings that were too crapped and unclean conditions - Sacco & Vanzetti trials is a prime example of what things were and of course it’s clear to see how they have changed to now. However, this means that things do change. People don’t stay at the “bottom” - people don’t stay at the “top.” If we would all work together, instead of against each other - things would get a lot better. I truly do believe that. Everyone has at least a little good in them and they need to put it to use.

lauren-foley: My first Red Sox music video to air at Fenway...

Sat, 25 May 2013 17:24:11 -0400

lauren-foley:

My first Red Sox music video to air at Fenway Park

this is awesome! nice and congrats!!

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Sat, 25 May 2013 17:22:34 -0400

My question for you is not coming from a place of hate or anger but truly a place of curiosity. Can you please give me an example of a POC race that hold privilege? Thank you

Sat, 25 May 2013 17:18:44 -0400

On a large scale, none. For some tiny things, some - like I said it all depends on the place, location, country, etc… and of course the situation. The way you worded your question makes things make more sense though - to be completely frank. I can tell that you are talking about a large scale and not a small scale (which means others must be too). And I was talking about a small scale - the complete opposite of what others were talking about. You are right though and I am wrong. Sorry for talking out of my ass and misunderstanding. Privilege is a stupid thing that we should tear down - yet it still exists. Everyone needs to be equal. I will always treat everyone as equal and others should too. Sometimes when I say “I don’t believe in (a specific thing)” I don’t mean that I believe it doesn’t exist, I mean that it shouldn’t exist. I will specify more often and choose words more carefully. People have misunderstood me many times - even when I am blatantly quoting someone else and specifically say that this is not what I believe. I said some things a year and a half ago - people change, people become more open minded. Tumblr needs to let shit go - give people room to change, give people room to be educated, give people room to learn. I’ve admitted my privilege for multiple things (white, male - even though I don’t pass all the time, middle class, in college, had surgery, supportive parents, supportive friends, roof over my head, food to eat, and being able to live in SF), multiple times throughout the last year and a half. I give back as much as I can in ways that are possible right now. I’m hoping that I can give back more one day soon and am working on it. I fully recognize that I hold a substantial amount of privilege and I will do anything in my power to use this privilege that I was given, in a positive way, in a way to make others equal, in a way to spread peace, in a way to make others feel the happiness that they deserve to feel. Again, I’m sorry if I have offended you or anyone else. That’s not my intention. I am willing to learn - as I have said many times. However, I’m not going to let anyone push me around. If you want to reach out to me - do it in a positive way, don’t be knocking me. Sorry for the rant on your question and thank you for pointing it out in a positive, respectful way. You definitely didn’t have to do that and it’s not your job at all but I still thank you. peace :)

And to anyone who wants to switch my words around and make up crap that I didn’t even say, go ahead - only the truth will shine through in the end.